Friday, August 31, 2012

Why I Chose An ANR

My very first experience with ANR was with my ex-fiance about 5 years ago, he was obsessed with my breasts (hooray!) and played with them so much that I could express a drop or two of breast milk. At first I thought I was a complete freak but shock turned into curiosity and then I became a detective.

I stumbled upon an article explaining ANRs and it just sent shivers through my whole body reading about the emotional bond, the closeness, the heightened intimacy, etc. That started me on a massive google search of "lactating without pregnancy," and I was astounded at the wealth of information out there. So, I tentatively approached him with the topic and he was completely open to it, excited about it even, and we went about doing a ton of research and started me on drinking tons of water, taking herbs, and using motilium (domperidone) to really kick start the whole process. It was a long one at first, a week in I was still producing just drops but they were white and thick and creamy.

Two weeks in and I was producing maybe a teaspoon, and then finally the glands and ducts switched over and I was able to shoot streams at him; which I did with great delight when he least expected it, or when we were in the shower. We broke up about 2 and a half years ago and so with no one to keep the supply going, my milk went dry. Months later I was introduced to my now current mate and through much talking found out that he was also into lactation. What a relief! And so I went about re-inducing for him using the same process only this time, after about 4 days, I was already streaming.

About a week or two into the process I was already producing 5 ounces a day, but life got in the way and we backed off the ANR (sad me) and my milk dried up again. Now that life has settled back down, and I've expressed that I need this for my happiness, we're back on track with inducing yet again (second time for him, 3rd time for me).

For me, being able to nurse someone is almost unexplainable, but the best way I know how to describe it is: yes, there's eroticism involved because breastfeeding an adult is still primarily taboo in mainstream society, not to mention the let down reflex is almost like a mini breast-gasm. But really, the biggest thing for me (being the altruist that I am) is the idea of caring for someone and nurturing them in a way that no one else in their life does or could. The idea that they're gaining sustenance from something I'm providing from my body as nature intended breasts to be used for.

Another reason is that breastfeeding lowers your chances of having breast cancer, and since it runs in my family (my aunt had a double mastectomy) I would like to take any preventative measures necessary.

ANR and lactating was also a way for me to shed the leftover shame/guilt I had from my pubescent years when, growing up in a hispanic family (the other half is caucasian), I developed very large breasts (I was a 34D by the time my freshman year rolled around) and my mother was very adamant about me not being a "show off" or attracting undesired attention, and so a part of me was ashamed of my breasts. I used to wear minimizing bras and huge tee shirts because I was a beanpole except for my breasts. Years later in college, I was into a 36DD, and of course all the college guys saw one thing when they met me. Years later in my early twenties, I met my ex-fiance who really helped me let go of that past burden and develop a healthier image about my breasts, and so I reveled in them. Now, I'm average weight (5'5", 145 pounds) and in a 36H now, probably as a result of inducing lactation several times, and I LOVE my breasts.

So there are a lot of reasons but the simplest one I can provide is that I love the idea of someone depending on me for something only I can provide, something straight from my body that nourishes them and causes that warm fuzzy feeling. It doesn't have to be erotic to be gratifying.

They Why's of ANR/ABF...

By definition an 'Adult Nursing Relationship' is any relationship in which a woman who is currently lactating is being suckled by her husband, or long term adult partner, as part of a continuing relationship. One of the more typical reasons a woman may enter into this type of relationship is to recapture, or perhaps experience for the first time, the unparalleled inner peace and deep spiritual bonding which occurs during breast feeding. For a variety of reasons a woman may want to experience the deep emotional pleasures of breast feeding, but may not want to take on the responsibility of parenting at that time. When this is the case, the couple may elect to enter into an adult nursing relationship. The adult nursing relationship holds rewards for her partner also; as the nursing couple's bond deepens, he will experience a profound emotional/spiritual coalescence with his partner that few men ever have the opportunity to experience. When this happens, the couple will experience all of the psychological and emotional sensitivities, both physically and spiritually, associated with postpartum breast feeding, but without the constraints of parenthood. In some cases, deeply committed, loving couples may exclude sexual contact altogether during their nursing sessions, and limit their breast feeding activities to spiritual and emotional coalescence only. In an adult nursing relationship: the quality of the relationship is more important than the quantity of milk.

In some cases, a deeply committed, loving couple may enter into an adult nursing relationship to create or enhance an already existing metaphysical interrelationship. The normal subconscious interrelationship which occurs during adult nursing can be cultivated into a metaphysical intercommunication between couples with psychic talents. Metaphysical experiences are often sporadic and difficult to control; however, the spiritual coalescence of souls, which occurs during an adult nursing session, is one of the few times that the chaotic thought process of the conscious mind can be calmed to the point where a person can gain control over the subconscious thought process, and master psychic communication. When the souls of a psychic couple are coalesced into a single state of being during the adult nursing ritual, they aren't just connected to each other, they are also coalesced with the incorporeal universe. When the couples metaphysical talents are complimentary, their life force may be combined as if it were one, creating more power or energy than either could achieve as individuals. Many nursing couples possess psychic communication without being fully aware of it. In deeply committed, loving relationships, it is not uncommon for a woman to be aware of her husbands thoughts and feelings, while her husband appears to be unaware of hers. Quite often psychic communication travels in only one direction, and before a woman can become aware of her husbands thoughts, he must first open his inner self and connect with her psychically. When deeply committed, loving couples take the time to learn how their individual talents compliment each other, they are better able to work together as a team.

Many young couples experience adult nursing for the first time when they return to love making after the birth of their child. The postpartum mother is lactating naturally, and it is not unusual for her husband to become curious about nursing and the taste of her milk. His suckling during foreplay causes elevated levels of the natural hormone oxytocin in her blood stream, which in turn not only causes the milk let-down reflex, but also causes an intensely arousing sensation known as uterine flutter. Myoepithelial cells, (a specialized skin cell in the walls of the milk ducts), contract when stimulated by oxytocin, forcing the milk forward toward the nipple during the let-down reflex. At the same time, the uterus, which is made up almost entirely of myoepithelial cells, is stimulated into a pulsation of rapid contractions by high levels of oxytocin in the blood stream. The blissful emotional feelings which are brought on by being suckled, combined with the erotic sensation of uterine flutter, create a most unique and pleasure filled state of sexual arousal. Most men who have become proficient in love making have learned: the higher the arousal in the woman, the higher the arousal in the man. Even small amounts of breast milk can heighten sexual sensitivity. Note: A point of caution must be observed when adult nursing during the postpartum period. Adult nursing and/or any sexual activity must be done only after the child has finished nursing and been put down for a nap. Infant nursing and adult nursing must always be kept completely separate because children, (even in the infant stage), learn by example. A child should never be exposed to adult nursing or any sexual activity. Also special care should be given to scheduling adult nursing sessions, and to the amounts of milk being nursed, to insure there is always an adequate supply of milk for the child.

Also couples preparing to adopt an infant sometimes enter into an adult nursing relationship to aid with inducing lactation. Inducing lactation and increasing milk production to sufficient levels which will sustain an infant is an arduous task for any woman, even under the best of circumstances. Breast massage, nipple stimulation, and breast pumping are only partially effective methods for inducing lactation, even when supplemented by hormone enhancing drugs such as Domperidone. The emotional and spiritual coalescence, which occurs during adult nursing, is a far superior method of inducing lactation and increasing milk production than breast pumping and massage alone. To increase milk production to higher levels, a deeply committed and loving couple must bond in the same fashion as an infant bonds with its mother. The mammary system increases the production of milk only in response to the needs, (or hunger), of the person who is suckling; regardless of whether that person is adult or infant. Note: The loving, nurturing bond which has developed between the couple during adult nursing will later be transferred to the adopted infant. The initial period of bonding between the mother and adopted infant is a trying period; her husband must be mature enough to step back from adult nursing, and be supportive while she bonds with the infant.

Introduction to Inducing Lactation

Is it really possible for a woman, who is not pregnant, to induce lactation and breast feed? The answer, without a doubt, is yes. Potentially every woman who is self-confident, in good mental health, and whose breasts are physically sound can induce lactation and breast feed.

Lactation, whether induced or postpartum, is not dependent on any of the sexual organs, rather it is the result of a positive mental attitude, physical stimulation of the breasts, and brain chemistry. This is true for women who have never been pregnant, as well as women who are post-hysterectomy or post-oophorectomy.

For most women, the ability to lactate and breast feed typically begins in the teen years, and extends well past the child bearing years. Even though nipple and breast stimulation often cause sexual arousal, the mammary system functions independently of the reproductive organs, making it possible to induce lactation and breast feed without having been pregnant. The quality of milk and the physical means by which a woman lactates, after having artificially induced lactation, is identical to postpartum lactation with the exception of the production of colostrum. Colostrum, which is normally produced for the first few days postpartum, is not produced during the process of induced lactation or relactation. Physical techniques of suckling, methods of increasing lactation, and care of the breasts are the same for induced lactation as it is for postpartum lactation. The only differences between induced lactation and postpartum lactation is the method by which the essential milk producing hormones are stimulated into production and the lack of colostrum.

Inducing lactation isn't new, nor is it particularly difficult. In 1935, while studying the social structure of primitive cultures in New Guinea, American anthropologist Margaret Meade Ph.D. recorded her observations of infants, whose mothers had died in child birth or for other reasons were unable to breast feed, being put to the breast of non-lactating women. After a period of being stimulated by the infant's suckling, the adoptive mother was able to induce lactation and produce enough breast milk to sustain the infant. Dr. Meade was one of the first western anthropologists to observe, and later write about how primitive cultures provided care for orphaned infants through induced lactation. This method of induced lactation was basic and not always successful; however, it is one of the first recorded examples of induced lactation being practiced openly within a culture. In the beginning of the process, because there was little or no milk, the nipple would be coated with mashed fruits or other soft foods, and the infant would be placed at each nipple to suckle. The sweetness of the mashed fruit would serve to encourage the child to continue suckling until the volume of milk was high enough to sustain the infant, and also to temporarily supplement the nutritional needs of the child. The low volume of milk also made it necessary to nurse the child more often. This high frequency of suckling, until the breasts were completely drained, served to rapidly increase the milk supply: because the amount of breast milk produced is in direct proportion the need, (or hunger), of the child.

Until recent years, modern induced lactation techniques and hormone enhancing medications were unavailable to primitive cultures isolated in remote regions. Because of this isolation, aboriginal cultures commanded an uninhibited self-reliance with child rearing. Out of necessity and natural maternal instincts, this simple method of inducing lactation and breast feeding evolved. With these adoptive mothers, there was a complete absence of self doubt or even a single thought of being unable to induce lactation. Self-confidence is one of the key factors in successfully lactating without being pregnant.

The practices of induced lactation and relactation have succeeded for centuries without being well documented. During the 18th, 19th, and early part of the 20th century when the United States was being settled, people often turned to wet nurses for help when an infant was orphaned or the mother was unable to produce enough breast milk to feed her newborn child. A wet nurse is a woman who is able to easily induce lactation and produce enough milk to breast feed an infant, while not having been pregnant herself. At a time in American history when there were too few doctors and even fewer hospitals, complications in child birth and infant care were not uncommon, and a woman who could step in and serve as a surrogate nursing mother was a boon to small towns and rural communities. Unfortunately due to Victorian attitudes of the time, the methods used to stimulate and maintain lactation by wet nurses were rarely discussed and almost never recorded in public documents.

Because of this, there are few accurate records of wet nursing from that period. Of the few early accounts of wet nursing that still exist, (mostly through family records), there are indications that at least some wet nurses maintained high levels of lactation through out their adult lives, even after their own children were grown. Because a woman does not normally maintain a full state of lactation without being suckled, it isn't difficult to imagine that many of these women were likely in an adult nursing relationship during periods when their services as a wet nurse wasn't needed. It is true, there has always been a few women who naturally have higher levels of milk producing hormones in their blood stream, and are able to induce lactation more easily than the average woman; however, this condition exists only in a small percentage of the female population and would not account for the number of wet nurses that existed in early America. Considering the emotional desires and needs of loving couples in the early American culture, (or for that matter, any culture), would be no different than the desires and needs of couples today, it isn't difficult to conclude that not only has induced lactation been practiced through out history, it is equally probable that adult nursing has been practiced as well.

It wasn't until the mid-twentieth century, with the onset of mass produced baby formulas and nursing products, that the practice of wet nursing to began to fall out of public favor. Prior to this time, breast feeding wasn't just the most popular way to feed infants: it was the only way. With the fast pace of life today, and the wide availability of baby formulas and nursing products, many women never consider breast feeding. In many western industrialized nations, not only has breast feeding fallen out of favor in public opinion, it has almost become taboo. Because of social taboos and false stereotyping of female life styles, many women are unaware that lactation is even possible without first being pregnant, when in reality inducing lactation and breast feeding are perfectly natural elements within a woman's individualism.

With the advent of the Internet and the World Wide Web, couples all over the world are discovering they are not alone in their desire for a more intimate relationship. This is especially true for women who are discovering their desire to be suckled by their husband or lover, not just in foreplay but in a full time adult nursing relationship, isn't unusual or uncommon. The desire to experience the intimacy and inner peace that comes through breast feeding isn't just limited to postpartum child rearing, it is a normal emotion shared by many woman throughout their adult life. The female mammary system is the product of countless centuries of human evolution, as is her entire physical body. The fact that a woman can induce lactation is an indication that not only has induced lactation been a common practice for countless generations, so has adult nursing. If there had been no need for the ability to lactate and breast feed outside of postpartum child rearing, the female mammary system would not have evolved with the ability to induce lactation outside of pregnancy. The ability to induce lactation or relactate is a perfectly normal part of a woman's physiology and her desire to adult nurse is a perfectly normal part of an adult male/female relationship. More and more couples today are discovering the corporeal intimacy and spiritual inner peace that is part of adult nursing.